If a mother protects her son who has been accused of sexual violence, does that make the mother a perpetrator of violence as well?
If that same mother was raped several times in her life and nobody listened or did anything, and is therefore herself a survivor of multiple abuse, is she so inured to the horror of it all that she can't see beyond the protection of her son .... after all, she was raped and no-one did anything, why should she care about someone else's child?
A couple of months back I came across a young woman who didn't report her common-law husband who had raped at least one other little girl living nearby and finally her 6 year old daughter. She said that reporting him would wreck her family because there would be no money coming in. It emerged that she [the mother] had been raped three times as a child and because it 'happened to everybody' couldn't understand the big fuss about what happened to her daughter?
The man left and the children were eventually given treatment. The man was finally arrested for stealing in a township 200km away and his other crimes identified because he finally confessed to raping over 50 women and children.
There is lots of research showing that if they are not stopped after the first time, by the time a rapist is arrested he could have raped and brutalised tens of women and children.
There are many, many other stories of women who have protected their men folk, even when the same men have raped small children, and even their own daughters.... the question is always why... WHY?
Its much more complicated than first appears
If that same mother was raped several times in her life and nobody listened or did anything, and is therefore herself a survivor of multiple abuse, is she so inured to the horror of it all that she can't see beyond the protection of her son .... after all, she was raped and no-one did anything, why should she care about someone else's child?
A couple of months back I came across a young woman who didn't report her common-law husband who had raped at least one other little girl living nearby and finally her 6 year old daughter. She said that reporting him would wreck her family because there would be no money coming in. It emerged that she [the mother] had been raped three times as a child and because it 'happened to everybody' couldn't understand the big fuss about what happened to her daughter?
The man left and the children were eventually given treatment. The man was finally arrested for stealing in a township 200km away and his other crimes identified because he finally confessed to raping over 50 women and children.
There is lots of research showing that if they are not stopped after the first time, by the time a rapist is arrested he could have raped and brutalised tens of women and children.
There are many, many other stories of women who have protected their men folk, even when the same men have raped small children, and even their own daughters.... the question is always why... WHY?
Its much more complicated than first appears
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